This is a common saying… I’m sure we’ve all heard some version of it before! Boy, is it true. If you’re anything like me, you probably spend a lot of time thinking about things you have no control over. It’s a waste of time and energy—trust me! I struggle with this because I am a perfectionist… and it’s taken me until my 55th birthday, which is this Friday, to realize I can’t control everything! I can’t work 24/7 or make everything right all the time. It’s not humanly possible!! And believe me, I have tried. My grandmother, Memaine, always said, “Don’t worry… don’t borrow trouble!” She knew how much of a worrywart I was (and still am!), but ironically, I think I got that trait from her! She was just the same way. Wherever our worrying nature comes from, we have to find ways to accept what we can’t change and work on what we can.
Easier said than done! Letting go is SO difficult… especially because we often cling the tightest to what we care most about! Letting go doesn’t mean we have to care less, just that we recognize it isn’t all in our power to control. And that is a GOOD thing! Wouldn’t it be nice to free up some space in your mind? I know I’d benefit from that, so I’m trying to make it happen. The first step is accepting what you can’t change. Recognize those things that are beyond your power. The only thing you can control all the time is how you respond to people and situations! When bad things happen, your biggest source of power is how you react. Make the most of a bad situation! This is all possible when we learn to let go of the need to control everything.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
This is another catch phrase we’ve probably all heard before. But when you really think about it, this is a nugget of great wisdom! When we stop worrying about all the little things and trying to control it all, we have a greater capacity to take care of the big, important things! It’s like picking your battles. You’re going to have to fight, but not all the time. Fight in the battles that really matter. Spend your limited time and energy on things that are truly important in the long run, not just in the heat of the moment.
Embrace the Struggle
I hate to break it to you, but accepting what you can’t change isn’t always the easiest thing. But if you know that going in, the whole process gets a lot easier! There are some hard truths that you must accept in order to start letting go. First, the hard things are what make us better. We grow stronger each time we face a challenge and are forced to overcome it. And we don’t have to do it alone! I’m here for you, and I’m sure there are people around you who are willing to help you, too! The hard stuff is the good stuff! Second, you can’t be good at everything. Now I know you are probably already thinking of someone you know who is an exception to the rule, but I promise you that even those people have their weak areas! When you release the need to excel at everything, you have a much better chance to play on your strengths. Focus on what you are good at and what you enjoy! There’s no use wasting effort on things that we weren’t made to do. Find your things and zero in! You’ll save energy in the long run. Third, balance is necessary. At times, I feel like work is the ultimate thing in my life. There never seems to be enough time to do everything I need to do!! I’m sure many of y’all can relate to that. Other times, I think spending time with my family is all I need, and I don’t want to spend so much time working! And even outside of that, I have friends, hobbies, and passions that all require attention to grow! The key is perfecting your balancing act. Don’t perfect one area… perfect the way you balance of all of them! If you’re juggling three balls and you suddenly divert all your attention to a single one, the other two fall to the ground! Find a way to keep all three in motion, devoting adequate, balanced attention to each. Once you master this (or at least improve!), you will see a radical change in your life.
All of these points relate to your health as well! It’s not going to be perfect; you don’t have complete control to make changes happen just the way you want, and it’s definitely part of a balancing act! If you only focus on healthy eating and exercise, your relationships and work may suffer. If you focus on everything but your physical health, you won’t be as equipped to juggle all the other things in your life. I know you are all busy, and that’s why I made Lauren Fox on Demand. It helps you fight through a challenge without consuming all of your time! It will require a chunk of your energy… I can’t just go easy on y’all!!... but it will be worth it. Come join me and commit to letting go of what you can’t control and moving forward to the best version of yourself!
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